...and all is calm. sorry not-neo, got a leetle carried away there. i appreciate your comments and advice, and you were right to say i should delete the update, because it contained too much information. but i will outline the situation again but more discreetly - i will not censor my life for your reading pleasure, just protect those within it.

i, both unfortunately and fortunately, depending on your point of view, am 16. i met someone who is 28. i know how people usually view relationships of this sort and will entirely forgive you if you react badly to the age gap between us... however, we got to know each other because it was unavoidable and could not escape from the mutual attraction we felt for each other although we both tried (honestly. ok, so he tried. i wasn't bothered. so sue me). but... his family are unusually close and he told them about me (my family weren't too bothered as they saw how happy i was), and his sister went ballistic, so we are no longer together and have talked about the situation til the cows come home, but it does no good as what can you do about a situation like that? i see entirely where his family is coming from. i would have felt the same if only presented with numbers. but it doesn't mean i have to like it.

i have learnt a lot from this experience -
it's not often you meet someone who makes you happy so don't let them go
the worst they can do is shoot you
and someone somewhere is always going to disagree with you

the rest of my life is pretty damn great at the moment - i'll update again later just for your entertainment but i'm sleepy so god bless